The Daily Grind: How do you deal with your anger in MMORPGs?

Earlier this month, Overwatch made headlines when a player posted up a behavioral therapy chart his wife – who happens to be a therapist – made him fill out after he complained about his game losses. The idea is that you write down your “negative thoughts” about the game experience, then reflect on that to see how your temporary emotion has distorted your opinions, then craft a positive frame instead. It’s funny – but also pretty useful, and even Overwatch Redditors were asking for a blank sheet so they could try it themselves.

That brings us to today’s Daily Grind: How do you deal with your anger in an MMO? Do you complain to guildies, log out, bang your desk, go work out to burn off some steam? Are you handling it as well as the Overwatch Redditor and trying to learn from what went wrong? What do you do, exactly, when your teammates turn out to be “hot garbage”?

My wife told me to fill out this form after I kept complaining about Overwatch losses (she’s a therapist)

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Paragon Lost

If I find myself angry, I try to step back and take a look at what and why I am angry, frustrated or what have you. Once I got the whys/what figured out then I see if there is a fix for it, whether it’s me, the game or other players. If not fixable and I can’t ignore/get by the issue then I walk away from it.

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Roger Melly

I can’t say I ever get angry in regards to things that happen within gameplay ,being ganked doesn’t upset me because it adds a certain sense of danger to the game which I like . If I am camped I will just log on to an alt and play on that for a while . If someone gives me grief I just block them and lets face it there is nothing a troll hates more than to be ignored .

If it gets to a point where the community is getting so bad its starting to be really irritating I will just give up the game and move onto one that is not . Which is why I am no longer a subscriber to World of Warcraft or Elder Scrolls online anymore . If a company lets antisocial behavior get out of control to the point it spoils the game then they won’t get any of my money .

Ultimately I play games to relax, be social and have fun . :)

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Jarby Stark

well when I rage in ow I find my retarded teamm8s by ip and kick their asses.

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Roger Melly

How exactly do you kick someones ass by IP ?

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Pandalulz

Funny enough, I very rarely get angry at other players, minus the ever so rare grief camping, and then it has to happen multiple times. Kill me once, alright justified, follow me to the respawn point and camp and then I’ll eventually get frustrated.
Most of the time though, I get mad at mechanics, that game is full of cheap hits, or badly placed enemies or whatever, and I’m mad more at myself for not being able to figure the puzzle out or master the skill. Most of the time, I’ll rage quit, get some coffee, eat a snack, and come back and complete the challenge first try. But I have to angrily smash my face on it a good many times first.

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rondstat

Seeing my enemies driven before me and hearing the lamentations of their women?

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nobleeinherjar

I don’t know if I really get angry when playing video games. I used to. Around the N64 era, when I was a kid, I used to get far too angry when I would mess up in a game. But it’s anyone’s guess if it was truly the games that were making me so upset (even if there is a strong argument to be made for camera controls in many 3D N64 games inciting anger).

But nowadays when things go wrong, I almost find it funny. I sometimes have just as much–maybe sometimes even more–fun when a raid is going horribly sideways in FFXIV or if I get a party in a game like Monster Hunter: World where we just can’t get it together and get our asses handed to us. I mean, not always. Probably not even usually. But mostly I take it in stride.

Anyway .. to actually answer the question, I guess I deal with it by just stepping away for a bit and go do whatever. But it would take a lot to make me truly angry. Trolls or griefers or whatever I encounter in-game are dealt with easily enough with a good ol’ /ignore command. If I’m getting irritated at a mechanic in the game, that usually just means I need a break, whether that just means being done for the day or taking an extended break from my MMO of choice.

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wratts

Usually if I’m angry in a game it’s because I was already on edge. If the game isn’t helping bring that down I try to step away for a bit.

There are games, like For Honor, that I enjoy quite a bit but if I’m already in an edgy mood I know are likely to just make it worse when I play. Then I try to divert to lifeskills in BDO or something more chill

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veldara

I find that whiskey helps.

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Oleg Chebeneev

I write private messages to those who I think underperform, give them orders and if they dont follow I put them on /ignore

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wratts

lol, wow. I’m betting you could just short circuit that and add them to ignore right off

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Oleg Chebeneev

Many actually listen cuz Im giving on point tells to win games. Speaking mostly about WoW BGs btw

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Bryan Gregory

I think a lot of people who get mad at games are already angry people in general. Society has begun to (thankfully) take more concern regarding things like depression, but we’re not giving enough attention to whatever the equivalent is for being angry all the time (let’s call it chronic anger for now, unless someone knows a better term). Depression is often mistaken as a person simply being “sad,” but that’s not the case at all. It’s an entire way of a thinking, a philosophy if you will. It means that most of the time, when you have a thought, it is negative or quickly turns negative. It means not having the energy to think positively about anything, and to always think the worst of things.

I believe we need to start seeing chronic anger in the same way, and as often times as mental conditions are, it may even be related to depression in the first place. A person with chronic anger isn’t a person simply being “mad.” It is once again, a way of thinking, a philosophy. It means being easily irritated by anything, thinking everyone and everything is stupid or pointless or less than, thinking everyone is against you, being defensive all the time or easily offended… I would tell anyone who is experiencing these things frequently, while gaming or competing or not, to consider speaking with a therapist or at least to try out exercises like the one in the article. Prescription medication from a psychiatrist may also help the more severe cases.

To answer the actual question, as long as you’re not hurting anyone including yourself physically, mentally, verbally, whatever, then you’re already on the right track. If you find yourself often raging at people, punching your desk, throwing your controller… That’s not okay, and you should please consider professional help. If you aren’t a frequent offender, but you’re getting into a situation where you may lose your temper, it’s best to just log off. No insults or screaming. No slamming your keyboard. Just leave. There’s a million other things you could be doing, don’t let the thing you choose be toxicity.