When dealing with failure, ask yourself what you did wrong first – you don’t have control over anyone else’s actions, and this will allow you greater insight. Don’t accept easy answers, but ask why things are the way they are, including your own beliefs. Examine everything with care, then re-examine it, and pause every so often to make sure that the causes you once supported are not more toxic than you realize. Go into every disagreement prepared to be wrong, because being wrong is how you learn. There is no shame in not knowing something, only in being taught something and choosing to ignore it to avoid looking foolish.
If someone hurts you, remember that you don’t reduce pain by inflicting more pain. Try not to shout so that people remember your words instead of your volume, but don’t take that as justification for being shouted down. Try not to live by simple principles; life is complex, and simple axioms usually present a straightforward way of dealing with the world that doesn’t fully grasp the nuance. Spend your time with people who treat your feelings as legitimate, but always ask yourself first if your feelings are legitimate. Dig. Don’t let dualities define your thinking. Remember that complex problems have complex solutions and causes. Try things with the knowledge that we regret failure less than we regret missed opportunities.
I know, you’re waiting for the joke. You can offer your own in this week’s What Are You Playing comments. You should avoid doing the same thing all of the time; no one changes by doing more of the same.