UK divorce firm says Fortnite and other online games contributed to 5% of this year’s divorces

    
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Are people getting divorced over Fortnite? Or does a UK divorce website deserve a medal for SEO trick of the year? Why not both? A Divorce-Online.co.uk press blast has been making the rounds on both gaming and mainstream news website over the last week for claiming that it’s “received 200 divorce petitions since January 1st 2018 where addiction to Fortnite and other online games has been cited as one of the reasons for divorce” – that’s about 5% of the petitions it says it’s handled in 2018. The company claims to be “one of the largest filers of divorce petitions in the UK.”

That probably won’t surprise longtime MMO veterans; I’d bet most folks who lived through the “EverCrack” stigma know at least one couple who split over a particularly engrossing game, or maybe more specifically allowed the game to be a catalyst in a relationship already struggling, and that was before online gaming had become so mainstream. This firm draws a line straight to addiction.

“[A]ddiction to drugs, alcohol and gambling have often been cited as reasons for relationship breakdowns but the dawn of the digital revolution has introduced new addictions. These now include online pornography, online gaming and social media, so it is no surprise to us that more and more people are having relationship problems because of our digital addictions.”

I think this comment thread calls for some juicy gossip.

Source: Divorce-Online via Daily Dot. Cheers, Sally!
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kalech

What a weird article. I would guess its another way to blame video games for people’s problems.

You are allowed to game excessively if that’s what you want. But then you also have to accept that your choices may come at the cost of some relationships.

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Arsin Halfmoon

EVERYBODY SIT DOWN I HAVE A STORY

My wife and I met our ffxiv guild at fanfest 2014, it was ran by a husband and wife team. Hubby was extroverted and wife was the shy type. Even though his wife was there, we never saw her, but throughout the weekend, my new guild leader would mention how she has some issues and stuff. No problem, everyone is weird.

The next 2 years were awesome for my wife and me. Our guild was awesome, everyone was close and everyone was willing to help each other. But man, when the leaders got in fights, it was wild. In one of the fights, she got so pissed SHE DELETED HER MARRIAGE RING. (Not her real ring, the one you had to get tondo the marriage quest in FFXIV. And in top of that, they never played together. Even though I pissed off my wife/healer a lot in FFXIV (cuz you know, in the tank), we always played the content together. Our leaders didnt. In fact, the wife, which was both a highly skilled WHM and a very successful static, outright refused to play with her husband because she thought he was terrible and she aways made that very clear to the guild.

Zoom forward to 2016 Fanfest. Our guild got bigger, and we even rolled in to fanfest 21 people deep. Ton of fun, but the drama really picked up from there. The wife refused to play with the husband so when we did the boss roulette, we played with the husband while she hand picked the best raiders. Husband was obviously mad.

Later that night, we were going to go out clubbing with them. It was cool, but they left early, we partied.

Sunday, time to fly back. We find out the two of them had a major fight on the way back from the cluub, and we also found out that she was also about to go on a 6 month trip that day, she didnt even say goodbye to him.

Dude it was so wild, this was the catalyst for their divorce! It was so sad man! Thr guild’s never been the same since.

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Tamanous

I literally, right now (just prior to typing this) looked up a vid about Fortnite. It’s the VERY FIRST time I’ve ever watched something visually about that game. I keep hearing it’s the king shit of online games atm.

Holy hell it looks like crap and is a game I’d have zero interest in at any point in my life.

My best bud met his wife in Wow. They are still married and have a kid.

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mike foster

When I start dating someone I always have to talk them through the way my games pattern ebbs and flows. I don’t play games a lot consistently, but every now and then something grabs me and it’s all I can do for a few weeks straight (currently Spider-Man, before that No Man’s Sky, before that League ranked grind).

I find that setting that up in advance eases a lot of tension, like “Hey, I told you these spikes happen from time to time, so we’re in one, sorry.”

I have a unique advantage in that games are also my job, so I suspect I get more leeway than maybe another person–it’s easy for my S/Os to sort of write it off as “it’s work, i knew this ahead of time,” maybe? Or maybe it’s that there’s enough down moments to make up for the surges.

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McGuffn

Seems to me that if you bothered to take an interest in your spouse’s fortnite hobby there would be no need for a divorce.

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kalech

Or maybe if your gaming is so important, you shouldn’t be in a relationship to begin with. A relationship requires having, y’know, a relationship with someone. You can’t ask a spouse to accept that you ignore them and their emotional needs 90% of the time, except when it benefits you.

What you’re suggesting is basically “I want my wife/husband to shut up and always be there for me even if Im not there for them because I want to both have the cake and eat it too – at their cost because my personal pleasure matters more to me than the person I chose to marry”.

Instead try being an adult and communicate, and compromise, about it. Which goes both ways, meaning your spouse may have to be a bit more understanding of your hobbies and you may have to understand that you need to put down the game once in a while to actually focus on your relationship IF you want to have one. If you don’t, just get divorced.

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Roger Melly

I am not surprised to hear this my friends excessive playing of World of Warcraft was mentioned in his divorce proceedings but it was only symptomatic of more problems in the marriage . His wife was had a several affairs with men she picked up while commuting on her way to work over the course of a couple of years .

Similar thing happened with my Rift guild master , I think he used the game as an escape from a difficult marriage . It was mentioned in the divorce proceedings as far as I can recall but I know she was always going on at him for playing the game too much .

On the other hand I have known people who have got married to someone they met in an mmo so it works both ways .

Might be interesting if one of you write an article about mmo gamers who use the game as a dating app , we have had problems with guys that like several times over the years in my guild . They hear a female voice on discord and it’s like red rag to a bull . It wasn’t always wanted or invited attention either and caused a lot of problems at times .

One guy persuaded a girl from our guild to leave her boyfriend ( who she was always complaining about ) and the next thing we know shes moved in with him but what she didn’t know was he had all sorts of mental health issues that made him a bit weird at times to say the least . On top of that the boyfriend who also played Rift actively started asking around in game as to whether anyone knew where our guild mate lived .

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Neurotic

This is why I solo 99% of my MMORPGs and avoid grouped content — because at any moment, I might need to drop what I’m doing and go put out a ‘wife fire’.

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Alex Willis

I game with only one headphone on my head, to keep my other ear open for…unexpected events. **gestures vaguely**

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Neurotic

*recognises vague gesture and nods ruefully*

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Nordavind

My guild has a “real life comes first” clause, any player can drop any group content at any time, no pouting faces from the rest.

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Paragon Lost

Gotta make sure your wife is a gamer too. Saves on having to put out “wife fires”. :)

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Neurotic

:-D

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Peregrine Falcon

Which shouln’t be that hard since we’re constantly told “50% of all gamers are women.” Right?

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flamethekid .

problem with that is the 100% of proper gamers is a small population

and majority of non gaming women outside of california and some of east coast USA still see gaming as a negative thing
something normal none nerds don’t do

so you would still have to look at girls in that demographic

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Arsin Halfmoon

No man its called wife aggro

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Alex Willis

Any game without a “pause” button has a wide Divorce Aggro radius that must be negotiated.

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Schmidt.Capela

Part of the reason I like portable consoles so much, as they usually make some kind of instantaneous, unrestricted pause available at the hardware level.

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Minimalistway

Did someone accuse his/her spouse for being a “filthy casual”, just imagine the judge reading this loudly? :-D

I just hope “the media” don’t use this as another evidence of how evil video games are, before games people ignored each other by using TV, phones or “hobbies”.

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flamethekid .

more people divorce over american football than gaming tbh