The Daily Grind: Have you ever gotten married online in a game?

    
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The Daily Grind: Have you ever gotten married online in a game?

As we continue with our next round of “Never Have I Ever,” I’ll throw this one out to you: Never have I ever gotten married to someone else in an MMORPG. Honestly, it’s not something I’ve really wanted to do, and I don’t think I’m deep enough into roleplay to get into the headspace where it’d be OK to do this for my character without it meaning anything for me, the player.

So I’m genuinely curious and not judgmental at all when I ask if you’ve done this. Have you gotten married in an MMO? If so, to whom and what was the experience like? Did you use in-game tools or make up your own ceremony?

Every morning, the Massively Overpowered writers team up with mascot Mo to ask MMORPG players pointed questions about the massively multiplayer online roleplaying genre. Grab a mug of your preferred beverage and take a stab at answering the question posed in today’s Daily Grind!

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Zero_1_Zerum

Nope. I can’t even find someone to marry IRL, much less in a video game. I’ve got Zero time for that.

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Ixchel Shadoweater

Ew, no.

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Adam Russell

Back when I played wow a couple players got married and invited everyone to a wedding in a pvp enabled zone – because its so beautiful there. Of course the wedding got raided. I always suspected that the whole thing was a setup to force RP’ers into pvp.

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Oleg Chebeneev

No. But i had cybersex, and not just once.

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Zorvan

I’m not a weeb, so no.

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Malcolm Swoboda

Yes! Sorta. My boyfriend and I ‘married’ in RIFT. It was no ceremony, and just for laughs. I was male Kelari and he was female Eth.

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Vaeris

Nope. I’m married to my gaming wife though. Met her when UO came out (We actually met in a Yahoo chat room…before all this online dating took off) and we’ve played that and more than a few other MMOs together. Now we play alongside our kids.

Now, I have married two people when I was the the leader of a PA in SWG. They later got married outside the game. Presided over 2 different weddings.

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Ryan Allgood

I have!

I actually used in-game marriage in FFXIV to segue into my proposal to my husband. Haha.

I convinced him to do it on our anniversary of when we started dating, invited a few close friends and said we should skype video call with them. I had them record us and after we finished the ceremony and I was like “Hey, that was fun! We should do it in real life too” and I pulled out the rings. Totally caught off guard and he was super happy. Haha.

The rings were also engraved with a quote from Final Fantasy VI (which is one of our favorite games from when we were kids), so it fit in nicely with FFXIV.

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Jeromai _

Got married in a MUD, which was a simpler time, where characters were seen as more distinctly separate from the person behind the keyboard, while we were more prone to RL projection of feelings overlapping in a virtual space. Possibly just teenage hormones.

MUD relationships were super common then, where the term mud-husband and mud-wife basically just meant a pairing of players who were super tight with each other and nearly always found together, with enough trust in each other to share a certain amount of belongings/property/gear, etc.

Two of us met, somehow one crushed on the other, which fed a reciprocal crush and growing affection. Turned into being best buds for months and years, where we would literally spend hours (4-6 hours in-game in those days was nothing) with each other daily, doing stuff together or just chatting and jesting. Super-clean, no mud-sex or ERP, just two people who really enjoyed each other’s company.

We both had mud-“moms” and “dads” and family relationships, ie. two other paired groups of players who had sort of adopted and mentored us in-game. So it was a rather natural step at some point to make it official – it was already obvious to everyone else around us how much time we were spending with each other.

The flame eventually faded as the MUD started dying out in favor of the new kid on the block, MMOs. Mud-relationships started losing their meaning as players started logging in less, drawn away by new virtual worlds, where previously we only had the one. The other player also had a RL relationship they had just started, so that made them pull away a bit more from the virtual one, quite understandably. Still a good time while it lasted, fond memories.

Much less likely to happen in today’s times, when more people project themselves into their avatars and co-mingle their real and virtual lives together, while the games have gotten simpler and less complex with no real need for virtual communities and bonds. Wouldn’t touch one of those relationships with a ten foot pole these days, it would be too over-complicated.

In actual MMOs, I’ve only married my alts in A Tale in the Desert, and those were for the in-game perks of being able to teleport to each other.

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agemyth 😩

Well… I married my character on a Ragnarok Online private server to an alt account character named HisHand because there were gameplay benefits and because it made a global announcement like “Soandso is getting married to HisHand…” or something. My dumb teenage self and my dumb teenage friends thought that was funny at the time. Hilarious.

With the wedding ring items I think you could summon your spouse directly to you which was great for parking a buffing/healing class like a high priest in a safe zone right outside enemy guild castles under siege in the weekly PVP events. It was all about zerging your way through the castles faster than any other guild, so being able to teleport right outside the enemy gates while multiboxing and getting free speed buffs and stuff was a big deal.

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Kanbe

RO also had the benefit of enabling married couple to adopt another player as a kid. It turned them into a smaller version of a non-trans job. Was fun. Some friends and I all had a few characters married so we could adopt each other and run around as chibi characters xD was fun