The Daily Grind: Do you make friends in MMOs or bring them with you?

    
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I’ve mentioned before that my most stalwart MMO partner is my wife, who has stuck by me through thick and thin. When we move into a new game together, well, we’re in it together because we’ve been friends much longer than we’ve been playing MMOs together. On the other hand, our other constant companion and close real-life friend was someone we met after playing games together. So we both make friends in the game and bring them in from out of the game.

Some people don’t have a whole lot of real-life friends to bring into the game; others have so many that they need never deal with strangers. How do you do stuff? Do you tend to bring your friends with you into the game, or do you make friends in the game that you bring into your real life?

Every morning, the Massively Overpowered writers team up with mascot Mo to ask MMORPG players pointed questions about the massively multiplayer online roleplaying genre. Grab a mug of your preferred beverage and take a stab at answering the question posed in today’s Daily Grind!
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MrPoolaty
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MrPoolaty

You sir like the cut scene that showed I believe Mickey mantle saying I’m the luckiest man alive in return fire from the ps1 truly are one of the luckiest men alive to have a wife that plays with you! I like tons of other males that have had a marriage ended from gaming. Well it was one of the issues lol
I saw an article once called people who play together stay together… Obviously wasn’t the issue in my case.
I’ve made sum awesome friends though from online gaming.

mbbrazen
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mbbrazen

None of my RL friends play games and the only family member I have dragged along is my grandson, who is the biggest trash talker I have ever met, and he’s only 6!  I do have an online friend, whom I’ve never met but have played with for 7 years. We  try out new games together, although our tastes are a tad different so not everything we try sticks with both of us.

JakeDunnegan
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JakeDunnegan

Peregrine_Falcon That’s me – though, I even have a TS server for the (mostly entirely dead guild) I used to run, even then, I’d go back and forth whether wanting to be in chat or not. (Mostly because I game in a room with anywhere from 2-6 people in it – family). 
I really miss the days of making a lot of new friends in games.. or “ramping the guild up” and we’d have a new and expanding “core” in every game. Sometimes, we’d have people from a game 2, 3, or 4 games back join up with us in the next “new thing” that’s come out. 
If any one thing “killed” that concept, it was probably multi-guilding in GW2. (I see it in ESO, and in other games where people “guild hop” from one to the next a lot more commonly than they used to.)
And, frankly, outside of guilding – which really is just a bunch of like minded people playing together –  I don’t know how well one can really even make friends in games for the long term, and with the break down in guilding.. well.

JakeDunnegan
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JakeDunnegan

Radfist Rozyn Werewolf Finds Dragon +1

quark1020
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quark1020

I try, try very hard to bring my friends to a new MMO, but several factors keep them away from MMO’s in general. The biggest one is that they wait for me to play them to offer a review, and recently, I haven’t played anything compelling enough. The other reasons are a variety of IRL reasons, ranging from crappy computers to an inability to let go of their xbox (just one of them), so I go into these semi-alone.

Specus
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Specus

Neither.

None of my RL friends play the same games that I do and I’m terrible at making friends in game. During the last few years, I’ve chosen to hang out with a multi-game guild in most of the games I play. I still may not end up with any real friends in game, but I at least have the generic camaraderie that comes with being part of something larger than the game itself.

ToyFuzion
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ToyFuzion

I don’t have friends in RL that play games, unfortunately, but I have about a half dozen *good friends* that I keep in contact with online through the years. Mostly we don’t play the same games anymore, so I try to make new friends where I go. It’s rare I move someone from acquaintanceship to friendship anymore. Probably because I’m getting older and everyone else seems to be getting younger. It’s hard to find people I relate to in games anymore.

SwobyJ
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SwobyJ

Make friends. Most of my friends IRL do play video games to some degree, but matching my games with them would be super annoying.

Radfist
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Radfist

Rozyn Werewolf Finds Dragon Haha I am glad someone else saw the irony in that wall of text too.

Radfist
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Radfist

Bit of both, although I haven’t really made any ‘friends’ since Everquest 2.  I have had regular group buddies in new games, but nothing that would transcend the game itself.  With EQ2 our guild and extended friends still keep in contact and meet up in new games that we play.  I have even met a whole bunch of them in real life.  There just doesn’t seem to be the same community investment in newer games.  I think everything is just too easy to promote a real community spirit. 
And now I sound like a MMO grandpa…. get off my lawn you whippersnappers! Back in my day…